This post is directed at Godly women and women that want a “Christ-like” husband. I wanted to make a thread here to help “make straight” the paths that many Christian women have when dealing with their husbands. Here are some key points.
A: Are you unhappy? Does you relationship with your husband leave you feeling unsatisfied with life, dry, meaningless and devoid of purpose? If so is your husband leading you spiritually and causing you to be completely satisfied in Christ?
B: Are you insecure? Do you feel as if your husband is not making your home and family like a “little church”? Do you feel as if Satan is robbing your family of the perfect blessing of God because of your husbands lack of leadership?
C: Are you neglected? Does your husband take an interest in your hobbies and interests? Is he interested in your spiritual development? Is he interested in the condition of your home?
D: Are you abused emotionally, verbally or financially? Does he not listen to you? Does he actually argue and use logic against you? Does he ever raise his voice with you? Does he insist on knowing what is being spent or limit your access to money?
So if your husband is not completely Christ-like know that he is not fulfilling God’s perfect will. But before you start filling out the divorce papers, consider this:
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
(1Pe 3:1-5)
Yes, Peter wrote that believing wives should be in subjection to those who are in fact IN DISOBEDIENCE! Unbelievers, ungodly, in fact NOT CHRIST-LIKE IN THE LEAST! If you are a believer and are walking in the light you are in a better place to obtain grace from God and obey Him. You can win your husband, how? By taking your God given role, under the headship of your husband.
Don’t miss this last part. Why would you do this? Why would you give your husband all that “power” when he clearly isn’t acting like he should, surely that is an evidence of his lack of trustworthiness? Here is the secret, don’t trust him, take Peter’s hint and trust God instead.
If you can’t begin to trust God, please quit pretending to be a believer in the Lord Jesus Christ, quit pretending to be Holy or that YOU are any more trustworthy than your husband. You aren’t.
Trusting God means repenting of our own rebellious ways and obeying Him, and leaving the outcomes and consequences in His hands. Surrendering to him.
I’ll leave you with this, a wife in subjection puts more Godly pressure on the husband than you might imagine. Give it a try, you might like the results. (And really the alternative is not just a broken relationship with your husband, but a broken relationship with Jesus Christ).
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