Feminism is marginalized because of the way feminists have defined themselves. To claim that the average American Christian women is a feminist does not resonate with most people, men or women, as problematic if true. These women are mothers and church goers, they are nice and sweet and wonderful. For women it is an “of course”. For men it is kinda cute.
The Women are Wonderful paradigm is far more dangerous than any rabid feminist. When men and women default to moral supremacy of women, then take highly immoral tactics to maintain that, and still men and women go along, something is badly wrong. Its not about Family Law, Egalitarianism vs Complimentary roles, none of that. The issue is much broader. It’s what greets us when we walk out the door, like humidity, it envelopes us, and most folks just go along thinking, well, it makes my hair frizzy but its good for the skin.
A church in the desert is as “humid” inside as one in the tropics, if it sits in a western English speaking country.
For several years I have tried to unpack the question, what is the sin or dysfunction aspect of women that is analogous to the potential sexual proclivities of men. Those of us that are Christians ask this in terms of how do women sin verses how do men sin and are they truly equal, morally. Those that are not Christians face the same dilemma, just framed in different terminology. The phenomenon is the same, in that the perception is that women are good and men are bad, or at best women can be a little bit bad but men can be a whole lot of bad, and that there are built-in gender specific reasons for that. The easiest difference to point to is the general fact that men tend to be more led astray by sex drive.
If we believe neither gender is morally or spiritually superior, what is built into women that, in Christian terms, affords a route to sin? Or in secular terms, what produces a weakness or proclivity to dysfunction…..and what sins/dysfunctions specifically manifest in women as a result. Finally, what social pathology(s) then manifest as a result of these sins/dysfunctions of women in society?
I’m tired of 50% of the population seemingly not being held accountable. I’m weary of the rhetorical tricks used by people of both genders to maintain this belief, albeit never directly stated as such, that men are bad and women are good.
So, here I’m taking a stab at explaining a theory of mine. Along the way, all of the above can and will be discussed, meaning the built in female trait that creates a unique weakness in her, the behaviors that result from that weakness, and the impact on society not to mention friends and family as a result of the behaviors.
I unashamedly focus only the one way, because similar focus on men is omnipresent.
[EDIT February 2014]
Two whole years of writing a blog. A new friend or two added to my life. And more and more encounters that make me more strident. I was asked by someone, why don’t I channel my energy into helping men who have experienced the pain of divorce. Well, that is what I AM doing. When, at rock bottom myself, I stumbled upon some red pill writing….can’t even remember where but I was plugged into Mens News Daily back then, I recall how great it felt to not be the only person that not only sees the things I was seeing, but is also fixated on it, doing something about it, even evangelizing with it.
The more I run into the glazed looks on men’s faces as they show disinterest in the topic, the more determined I am to show them the truth. This is a calling. Not necessarily to blog, but to stay on guard for the truth.
If I ever run into you in person you will know it because, if we talk, I will talk about evangelical feminism.