Unhappiness, stress, and…..what?

This nugget was buried in an article I was reading. The title is a statement of the painfully obvious. But the subtitle begged that i at least scan it

26 Percent Of Adults Stressed About Money Most Of The Time

More than half have at best just enough money to make ends meet, and women, the young, the less affluent, and parents are hit hardest

All I was after was the specifics about women and financial stress. To wit:

Women continue to experience more stress than men, at 5.0 versus 4.3, and 30 percent say they feel stress all or most of the time about money, whereas only 21 percent of men report that. Almost half of all women say paying for essentials is a somewhat or very significant source of stress.

Lots of possible directions here. The simplest is that we’ve seen recent surveys showing women significant less happy with life than men, now add that women stress about substantially money than men.

Is it me of is there a lack of the most basic kind of intellectual curiosity today?

Possible questions/further issues (no particular order):

  • Breakdown of families
  • Women flooding job markets over past decades
  • Women control vast majority of consumer spending
  • Women create single parent homes either by baby-momma route or by converting nuclear families to split families
  • Women worry worry worry non-stop about every little thing generally, often losing sleep while reviewing mental notes, dropping incongruity into conversations by raising some list of things to do or bill to pay or bizarre concern right in the middle of a light conversation.
  • Women seem to enjoy being concerned…the furrowed look.

Those questions could add color to any further analysis of the data in the survey. But they said all they needed to say. Women are having a problem, men less. Must be some dudes fault and we all gotta pull together to fix it.


8 thoughts on “Unhappiness, stress, and…..what?

  1. Men also don’t admit as much to feeling stress; some feel it would be perceived as weakness on their parts.

    And women always like to emote about their feeeeeelings. Whereas men have none. đŸ˜‰

    So, I don’t trust surveys asking people about their feeeeeeelings.

  2. I’m kind of reminded of a comment a historian made about colonial/post colonial Africa. He said “Africa has been having a hard time ever since the British left. Yes, the Africans got their freedom and got shut of the insufferable arrogance and oppressive plundering of the British but they have never done as well since.” I wonder if something similar could be said of women in pre/post feminist America. The difference being feminism’s imagined patriarchy vs. British control.

  3. Women create single parent homes either by baby-momma route or by converting nuclear families to split families

    There is an old saying, “A man can’t raise a woman and a woman can’t raise a man.”

    If true, is the baby momma route/divorce/split families making men not suitable for marriage?

    (I’m just asking)

  4. Surveys about feelings are by far the least scientific sort of data imaginable, and by far the most difficult to analyze contextually properly. And yet because they are so easy to collect, these data abound, and the presentations pretend to a handwaving rigor “with decimal points” and pseudocorrelations.

  5. Another explanation is that women are spoiled, therefore they feel the squeeze financially when they sense that they can’t afford thousand dollar handbags even though their needs are all being met. I’ve had a theory for a long time that women are more materialistic or at least more interested in conspicuous consumption than men are. It could be because generally they are not the breadwinners, so they don’t have an intuitive sense for what things *really* cost (i.e. opportunity cost) like men do. I personally think it’s because women are more impressionable than men. When men see a TV show like How I Met Your Mother, which portrays an astronomical standard of living as normal (average late-20’s people living a NY lifestyle that only someone making 200k+ could afford), they know it’s just some TV horseshit. But when women see that stuff, they believe the show’s implicit message that says, “this is how 20-somethings live.”

    Another interesting example of that can be observed in millennials between ages 22 and 25 or so. Men at that age enjoy hobbies usually within their means, such as lifting weights, something involving music, something artistic, beer brewing, or something introspective like writing. Even if it’s something bad like video games and pornography, those things are pretty cheap. Women usually enjoy shopping, traveling, getting dolled up and going out to fancy restaurants, etc. In other words, the way that women prefer to spend their free time usually involves luxury or consumption. I dated a spoiled only child of wealthy parents who was from another country and never lived in the same city more than 5 years her entire life. I could tell that marriage would not work out with her because she would go travel somewhere multiple times a year and I could tell that she viewed that as normal. I viewed it as a giant waste of money. It was her (read: her parents’) money, so I didn’t complain, but I could just tell that she, during her college years when she had both lots of free time between semesters and lots of money, got accustomed to a certain way of life and would be miserable with the sort of lifestyle that normal married people have.

    Also, I get the sense that class anxiety, concern over status, and the need to compete with peers by signaling financial success are things that are perceived to be vices of upper middle class married couples, but are actually driven by the wives. The husbands feel the pressure because of women’s hypergamy, but if it were up to them they wouldn’t bother giving themselves aneurysms because of a mortgage they can’t afford.

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