This is going to be hasty. I got got got no time.
The barna study linked in the comments after the last post takes women’s responses to a survey at face value and writes up a summary with many outrageous claims, yet only sees absurdity in one of them. This not a perfect example of the adage, “watch what women do not what they say”.
When women reported that:
However, after those top three influencers, women are much more reticent to admit they are swayed by outside voices—particularly when it comes to friends and media.
a striking 70% claiming the media has “little” influence over their decision making.
The writer summarizing the research tells us that the study author(s) noticed this particular disconnect. Women are claiming they are mostly influenced by the bible and sermons, while denying being swayed by media and friends. Meanwhile, what is that statistic about advertising dollars dedicated to female merchandizing? How many husbands will tell you that their wife will accept advice from anyone but him. Let’s say he is an accountant. She has a financial question. He answers it. She will check with her mom or sisters. How about the lock step direction situational comedy takes where there is an idiot dad and a brilliant competent woman…the popularity of shows like Dancing with the stars and The Bachelor….the sales of merchandise and gossip in print surrounding the Kardashians. On and on. Women don’t mince words about these interests among friends. But a survey? That must be important and I want to be represented well. Many women would even FEEL that somehow her answers would reflect back on her personally, even though it was likely anonymous.
As I read this article I saw equally glaring disconnects in each paragraph and on every topic. Apparently those things didn’t move the author(s). But women claiming to not be influenced by friends and the media was too much for them. They had to admit that maybe the responses to the survey were wishful thinking:
When asked to explain why so few women say they are influenced by media, Kinnaman adds: “In many ways, women’s self-perception revealed in this study seems to be aspirational. Women want to be influenced by the Bible, but they reject the idea of being heavily affected by the media. So these aspirations may be reflected in the numbers. Still, the way women describe themselves reveals something: they seem to know how they want to be perceived by others. Other findings in the survey reflect this pattern: women seem to be laying claim to a life they want, even if it’s not always current reality.”
Why not read the rest of the survey with the question on mind, “what would a woman say if she was answering to represent
Three quarters of Christian women say they are mature in their faith (73%). The good feelings continue when it comes to ongoing spiritual growth, as more than one third (36%) of churchgoing women say they are “completely” satisfied with their personal spiritual development
The vast majority of women claim to have an “extremely close” (38%) or a “pretty close” (43%) relationship with God.
In third place is their role as wife (11%).
Though women consider themselves family-driven, their marriages may be suffering from a lack of intentionality: only 2% of Christian women say their most important goal in life is to enhance their relationship with their significant other. Marriage comes in below several other goals, including health (6%), career (5%), lifestyle (4%), personal growth (4%), morality (4%) and financial objectives (3%). Only goals related to personal appearance, relationships outside the home and travel come in lower than marital goals.
Maybe one of the reasons women often fail to mention marriage-related goals is that they are generally quite satisfied in their marriages. While Christian women claim high levels of satisfaction in many facets of their life, they are most satisfied with their marriages (59%) followed by their parenting (51%). Although these findings cannot entirely explain women’s lack of marital goals, it does suggest many Christian women find some of their deepest contentment in life from their marriage
A Christian woman can say she is not influenced by media, rather she follows the bible and its teachers and the researches call BS. Yet onlyt 2% of respondants list theor spousal relationship as having primacy and the researchers say that that is because they are so satisfied in the marriage that they feel no need to set goals and be intentional.And of course women are raving about their personal spiritiual growth.thats because they get to to define the destination….the place where when they get there they can see them selves as having grown. Most importantly though, they get to use comparative analysis to butress the feelings of having grown and growing.
Like the person who wants to feel thinner hangs around other people whoare much larger, the women just happens to have, ah-hem, a man in her life that E V E R Y B O D Y knows is struggling in terms of his faith. She not only contrasts against him, she even gets to share her blessing of spiritual superiority and manage his growth. The church helps a lot. They offer everything down to detailed programs geared and micromanaging that man into spiritual fitness. he is so lucky to have her. I mean, why would she need to set goals for herself when she is all that and selflessly trying to let a lil’ bit rub off on him.
I neednt explain every specific item where women openly contradict themselves and the Barna folks miss it. But I am disappointed in David Murrow for not seeing whats right in front of him.