Just like that I received the call to action from Family Life. I am to join them in fighting the proliferation of Ashley Madison.
First in the new article Do Cheaters Prosper?.
Biderman [A.M. founder] tends to make provocative statements like that when defending his company. And he’s a master at deflecting criticism. “You eradicate Ashley Madison, you’re not going to eradicate infidelity. That’s what allows me to sleep at night.” Or, “If you think that all affairs happen on Ashley Madison, you’re very naive.”
Those are clever words. By addressing absurd accusations nobody would make, Biderman deflects legitimate complaints about making money from something most people consider to be immoral.
Can people be so blinded that they cannot see the same dynamic being promoted, whether intentional or not, by the packaged efforts they put forth? More, the questions the writer asks in order to challenge the founder of A.M. could be asked of Family Life. Namely the part about absurd accusations nobody would ever make. I have defended FL and others about the money making angle so I will not let that hang out there as an unspoken accusation. I am not on about the money.
But biting my tongue starts hurting when Barbara Rainy writes A Billboard That Hurts Women and Children. That is a shameless headline in the vein of “2000 men killed in Iraq, women and children hurt most”. When will we get past dropping all reason at the mere mention of women and children? I did not say women OR children. Important distinction.
it is hurting all women and children with the invitation to other husbands to join the cheating club.
Will those men be cheating with a broom? A vacuum cleaner? A table saw? No? How about with A WOMAN? Who is the bait and who is the fish, and does it matter when the whole thing is on a pile of rice on a paper plate? Unbelievably offensive.
It gets worse:
My own grandmother, who I loved dearly, was caught in the web of this subtle poison. In a very small town she became the object of another man’s affections, and years later she and my grandfather divorced.
The choice of wording is maddening. She “became the object of another man’s affections”? Doesn’t she mean she chose to sleep with another man? That she saw physical pleasure as a lure that she could not resist and went willfully to her back in that man’s bed?
I did not think I could be shocked anymore. But I am shocked by the audacity of that comment, especially when juxtaposed against the title of her piece.
Her rousing call…
If you and I don’t take risks to counter those who aggressively seek to destroy marriages and families the already fragile stability of our nation will crumble further. It is our children’s future we must preserve.