If you’re a Christian, you believe that Christ perfectly did the will of God, and was a perfect man on this Earth.
We keep hearing about what men are supposed to do in life and in marriage, and in the context we talk about it here it’s about pleasing women, and obviously this is a topic we are not happy with, in the sense of how the Church is generally dealing with it.
I was thinking about Ephesians 5, so often quoted about men loving their wives like Christ. But Christ was uncomfortably honest, Christ did the right thing even when people turned their backs on him for doing it, and Christ did give all–but not in the way people wanted him to.
So this has been something that has been troubling me since I’ve been writing for this blog. The idea that so many in the manosphere seem to be searching for some kind of solution, or angry at changes in our society. But I honestly think that this is avoiding understanding of biblical truth. We are called to be like Christ, but this is what Christ faced: being rejected, misunderstood, not appreciated.
So what are the churchian marriage counselors really selling? I think there’s a simple test of that. If they’re not promising blood sweat and tears with the possibility of it all ending in sorrow because all people involved with relationships once they grow up are making decisions on their own–then it just ain’t the Gospel.There is no formula that works but that way, the truth and the light if you are a believer.