Marriage is Dead
Marriage died in 2013, declares Keith Ablow.
While I would assert that marriage has been dead, in the sense Ablow means, for some decades now, I cannot argue with the way he phrases the following:
It was always at least a little funny that a huge percentage of people swore to stay together until death, then divorced and remarried.
But, now, it is, officially, judicially, a joke.
I like his statement that government should have nothing to do with marriage, and that the church or synagogue or temple or whatever should be able to declare what is and what is not marriage, leaving tax breaks and other legal pontifications to the state, for the individual.
Churches should be allowed to define marriage as they wish and offer marriage certificates only to those who comply with their definitions.
We can be sure that the evangelical church would offer no such certificate to any but one man and one women….right? Imagine then, lacking the state to use as an excuse, how would the church handle the people coming for their second, third, forth marriage certificate?
It would be fun to watch. Its fun to just thought test.
I can think of no better anecdote to illustrate the defining attitude the church has towards marriage than to offer an example of the attitude the churches and their cultural cuzzins, the conservatives, have towards women.
Kim Braine-Tillem is a woman of incredible strength, courage — and faith.
“It was 2005, I was in Los Angeles with my three kids, my husband and I had separated — it was NOT part of the plan — and I got permission from the court to move back to Richmond, Va.,” she recalls, managing a smile. [emphasis mine]
She makes zero claim as to why she “ended up separating”. She fell down, and landed with her kids and her belongings in a car headed cross country?
She finally met a man that shared her unique and peculiar interest. Despite how uncommon the urge is, and how strangely society would view such a novel idea, the man joined in her odd mission of ……helping women. Can you believe anyone would come up with such an idea? No wonder its news worthy. Its out there.
They share an example. The example is so shocking it is little wonder it made the front page of Fox News website. Its a scoop!
“We were homeless,” Tiffany explained, “and I just walked into the church this past September, looking for help… and they referred me to Kim.
“I’m in an abusive marriage — he left me financially destitute, suffering emotional and mental abuse. I was mentally lost — how did an educated woman like myself get into this position?
How indeed? An educated woman, emotionally and mentally abused? Homeless? She must have also fallen down. Instead of landing in a car headed cross country she landed , well, nowhere…homeless, and asking “what happened?”.
I could go on, but please read the article. It is the raw material from which the stake through the heart of marriage was fashioned.