Family Life ties up a neat bundle. They raise the subject of Love Languages and meeting a spouses needs They do not even hint at sex as part of the whole marriage dynamic.
What if your spouse is unwilling to read a book about marriage or discuss your marriage?
If you are a man, drop on your face and thank God, and ask that she be thwarted in any effort she makes to embrace churchian wisdom on marriage issues.If she were to read one of these books she would read examples like this:
Rick, a 33-year-old truck driver who has been married for 12 years, wrote, “After I discovered [my wife’s] love language, it helped me to understand why she had been saying that I didn’t love her. I knew I loved her, and I told her all the time. The problem was that her love language is acts of service, and I never did anything to help her around the house.
Acts of service, acts of supplication….220, 221, whatever it takes.
Rick’s wife, Brenda, wrote, “We were having serious problems and were talking about separating. … Then Rick and I started talking about our relationship. I learned that his love language is words of affirmation.
Notice, in the entire article there is no mention of men’s number one expressed need in that infamous survey…..sexual satisfaction.
She wrote her letter gleefully. It had no sex in it. That’s why he (husband) told her that his need was words of affirmation. Sex was still his motive. The lift, literally. He knew he may get more sex (still not enough) by saying this than he would by saying that the words of affirmation he wanted to hear were “I love it when you &^%$ me just like that”
These are toxic times. OSHA needs to weigh in and limit the exposure threshold to something less than 50 ppm. They limit harmless chemicals to lower levels. the deaths and damage attributable the exposure to these ideas make chemical exposure look like a bubble bath.