I see the ads for the dating site “Our Time” and I assume the worst. People in mid-life lookin’ for love having so much in common and a half a life to spend together, or a quarter, or a week, or a night…whatever. So, I thought I’d read some profiles and see if my suspicions were correct. Here is a representative example of what I found:
I am a single mommy of an incredible 3rd grade son. I have been married twice. The first 7 years. The second, eight. I never thought I would be divorced once in my life, much less twice. But unfortunately, we cant make someone love you [sic]and you certainly cant make another be honest and true. They keep putting you through the madness with no desire to change, then youre left with one choice…you walk away and NEVER look back**. [ ]
My main focus is raising up a God fearing son who knows how to respect others, especially girls because these type of men are slim pickings
im [sic]not looking for a hook up, s sugar daddy or a fling. I still believe in love, even after all ive been dealt. I hope maybe one day it will finally land on me. Either wsy,[sic] (name redacted) and I will be fine.
She has taken the advice Ive parsed and shared in recent posts and positioned it plainly for men to see. Independence? Check. Doesn’t need a man? Check. And she has added her views in God and on men. God is good, men….not so much.
Like the guy writing at AARP said, middle aged men, it is best to date in your own age cohort because they are fun and independent and strong and have learned how to manage relationships. (plural is handy)
** is looking at your online bank statement on support payment day considered looking back?