Women writing to women about men and women

In the article 7 traits That Make Men really Attracted to a Woman, Laurel House, the writer, plays to the crowd saying:

men are looking for deeper, more substantive and enduring traits

Ok, like what?

Here are seven traits that really turn a guy on:

  • Fun

  • Confidence

  • Independence

  • Strength

  • Vulnerability

  • Femininity

  • Happiness

Happiness? Sure….

But….independence?

You are your best self, raising the bar and inspiring him to be his best self too. Whether it’s your business that you adore, or you have emotionally and creatively fulfilling hobbies, the point is that you don’t need him. You don’t need him to fill a void or make you happy.

This dovetails with Ruthie Dean recommending women say “You don’t define me” and “My life does not revolve around you” in the article I linked in the post below. This stuff is women taking what they think impresses them about other women and/or what they think a man finds impressive about another man, and foisting it on men about women. It’s all about appearances. Somehow, if all of this imagery and propaganda was to evaporate and be replaced by elevated images of home makers and mothers, women would embrace that and use it superficially as well. It is a part of their fallen nature.

Meanwhile, take their advice. DO NOT need your man. He hates that.

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6 thoughts on “Women writing to women about men and women

  1. I liked what you said there, and I noted that the first comment was from one of the most psychologically revealing screen names ever….atackel… who said:

    One of the true skills is knowing WHEN he needs you to be each of these things. My husband and I have learned over 20 years that timing is everything. Getting to know the ‘real’ person helps a partner know when to be as much as what to be.

  2. Empath,
    Independence? Well, out of the whole list, that’s the only trait I see most women actually possessing. Even then, it’s more egotism than independence.

    This list reminds me of questions like: ‘What qualities do you seek in a political candidate?’ Expecting a typical politician to be anything other than a lying, theiving shill is of course to be in denial. So, BTW is looking for an ideal (or even desirable) female. They more or less don’t really exist anymore.

  3. If you don’t want the baby, it is not a sign of a bad mother to consider all your options. At 12 weeks, the window for an abortion becomes more difficult. Second trimester abortions are on a fetus, not an embryo, and are more dangerous and difficult. They are also psychologically harder on the mother. However, women have had successful second trimester abortions, usually, they are for therapeutic reasons. These women have gone on to have subsequent successful pregnancies, so don’t believe this will damage your uterus. In a good clinic, you are not in danger of becoming infertile as a result of an abortion. You may have personal reasons that an abortion will not work for you. If you have mental health issues or are unstable this may not be the best solution. If you have been raised in a religious background with strong feelings of guilt this choice will be hard to reconcile. It may take counseling to overcome your core beliefs about abortion. The other option is adoption. Open adoptions will keep you in your child’s life, you just won’t be the baby’s mother, but the the baby’s birth giver of life. You will always be the baby’s birth mother. If you get a stable couple, you are giving the child the best possible life in a difficult world. This is an act of love, and it is unselfish. You will be able to see your child grow and prosper, and it will be a blessing. Not that you won’t feel the pangs and pain of “giving” your child away..as you may sometimes think you have done. But you haven’t, you are in his life. It’s not much different than when grandparents raise children because mom and dad can’t do it. Then again, you may find you want this baby when the maternal nesting hormones kick in, but you have to make the decision of keeping the baby or adopting before the baby is born, for the best possible bonding of your baby with it’s adoptive parents. Good luck, and listen to your intution. You will come up with the right answer.

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