A Man and His Traps….”as we take a look at the idols most men face and fight…..control, success, sexual lust, money, etc.”
That is the title and tag line as advertised in the bulletin for this weeks continuation of -33 The Series. I had attended the first set of meetings several months back, but have been traveling so much I didn’t sign up for this one.
I plan to attend this coming Thursday because the subject compels me. In fact, not only will I attend, but for anyone who will listen I will even have some prepared remarks. It will end up that I will say things to a table full of men who will glaze over as if I am reciting directions for making a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.
We could write the curriculum, so I’ve no concern that I may be pre-addressing issues that are off topic. What I do not know is if there will be a period (as Ive seen many times) where attendees try and out-confess one another. Its like a perverse desire to belong to a club where the price of admission is having screwed up in the area of sexual morality.
There is a subset of men who will begin telling their own struggles with porn. They will do so with a hue and tenor of challenge, unspoken but clear, that they KNOW that porn every man in the room is a rock gut porn addict like them, but, unlike them, still holding it close so that they can persist in the slime.
I want to say words that will suck the air from the room. I want to ask what what role the wives have in a man’s sexual purity. That alone would cause Stanley Steamer stock shares to split, there being so much carpet cleaning resulting from the spewed coffee.The cowardice is upsetting, but as Elspeth noted recently, I’m in the upsetting zone for the past few days.
To deign mention women in a meeting about men is to invite every bad label mentioned in the seminar to stick to me. “He must be really struggling with porn, sexual addiction, workaholism, control issues, lest he wouldn’t be trying to throw countermeasures into the air here”.
The reaction will be not unlike the dynamic amfortas illustrates in the licked video after my last post. The men will retort with “received nonsense”. On marital relational issues the church doles out and the people take on board received nonsense. Scripture is become received nonsense contextually. The received nonsense of the women is designed to foist responsibility on the men, while men’s received nonsense is solely to keep him wallowing, burrowing into more and deeper self effacement.
I have to take the fight to the front. In this case, the front is deeply behind enemy lines. I have to pose as a churchian man, and then drop the tradecraft and pour out some reality knowing I may have my standing forfeited. It may even result in some quiet calls of concern to my wife.
“Did you hear what your husband said at the 33 series? Some of us wives think you may want to check his hard drive, know what I mean. And he needs to stop that because we heard Bethany’s husband challenged her last weekend when she kept the relational temperature below zero lest he better perform life to her standards.”
Its these forums where some well places questions and comments can shock and awe. Hope that I walk adroitly and dispel some of the received nonsense of the past few decades. Or at least get out alive.