Maybe someone should mention to Dave Ramsey:
For I hate divorce,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with wrong,” says the LORD of hosts.
(Malachi 2:17 NASB)
And that he can find it in the same book that discusses tithing.
I was listening to what I consider his ridiculous financial advice and got a heavy dose of blue pill on the side. In his post “It’s Our Money” Dave gives some standard advice such as he does to any women that he radio diagnoses as “abused”.
QUESTION: Amber in Tacoma is a stay-at-home mom. Her husband says the money he earns is his, and he gives her an allowance. Amber is frustrated and asks if she should start billing him for what she does around the house.
Dave says they need marriage counseling.
Examine that question, what advice do you give this woman?
Now time to see how the “master” handles it:
Time for Dave to don his Shining White Armor!
ANSWER: No, you need marriage counseling. This doesn’t have anything to do with Financial Peace. This has to do with your husband treats you like a financial twit. Let me just tell you if Sharon Ramsey treated me the way your husband treats you, we’d have a haymaker problem. He’s treating you like a 4-year-old, and he’s an overbearing jerk. I don’t know how you approach that exactly—possibly duct tape and a two-by-four involved. I don’t know.
Scrambling abuse imagery in where none exist, and not just any imagery, graphic violent imagery. Comparing being placed on a budget as something that needs to be responded to with violence is a brilliant stroke by the master. He continues:
The attitude that you’re describing is so unappealing I don’t know how you’ve stayed in it, and I’m not surprised he’s been divorced twice before. It sounds like you guys really do need to sit down with a marriage counselor because this guy is untenable. You’re not going to stay in this situation unless you’re somebody who likes abuse. (all emphasis mine)
This is a verbal escalation, “unappealing” is traded up for “untenable” is traded up for “abuse”. You seriously have to lack imagination to see where this is going from here:
Your son is now learning how to be a man improperly. Your husband is not a man. He’s a scared little boy, but your son is learning how to be a man improperly because he’s going to treat his wife the same way. This is what’s being modeled before him. You have to fix this. This cannot stay this way. You have to get with it. Your husband is obviously a strong, strong personality. I hope that he can learn some humility and agree to work with his spouse because that’s what’s going to be required for your marriage to last and for you to model properly before your 5-year-old the proper way to treat a wife. A wife is a queen. She’s not the slave. She’s not the hired help.
Full on “Defcon 1” shaming language! As well as: “NO! The children!!!!” Note how “she’ becomes solely responsible for fixing that situation, not prayer, not God, her. Also note how the child is “her” child, that means that either it is biologically not his or that we have already stepped into all children are the women’s land (I cannot be sure). Either way she is the QUEEN. You go grrll!
What next? Is there any doubt?
I’ll give you a prediction. If you don’t do what I say, within three years, you’ll be divorced, because in talking to you, you’re not an unintelligent person, and you’re not going to sit there and continue in this level of emotional and financial abuse that you’re under.
Divorce! You knew it all along. Of course the “master” deflects expertly from actually advising divorce but he has led her right down the path. I’m curious if anyone knows what the word “divorce” translates into in Churchianese? Allowance?