Its a well worn lament that the church is following the culture. I’m not claiming to be out in front of anything when I say that I and others have written a great deal about the mega trends in the church with regard to marital ordering, divorce, dating, even gay marriage.
Now I am concerned about the church and gender roles more comprehensively than the roles of husband and wife. I am remiss in not having this concern sooner. After years of reading gender role blurring as part of the package that constitutes egalitarianism I should have seen it coming.
Christian women have adopted the easy feminist line that there are no differences between men and women, girls and boys, and that no generalities are valid because we just cannot put people in boxes. This is not news. This view is normative in society and has been long enough that the next step has already been taken:
Christians (I think) would gnash their teeth about things like this.
Or would they?
I came across a thread at Christian forums where a father raised the notion of sending his boys to a military academy. The majority of the women in the thread eschew the notion of gender roles and putting kids into boxes, for fear that their precious esteem be damaged. We would not want to suggest to a child that there are differences between the genders. The new doctrine of self esteem preservation has supplanted God’s very creation!
This comment could easily have been made by one of the parents sitting along the sides while that boy in a dress participates in a pageant. I challenge the Christians who believe this way to explain to me the difference between what they are saying and the thought process that puts that boy in a pink dress:
What does destroy a boy (or girl) is forcing them into a format that the parent thinks they should fit into – the fighting, spitting, wild boy that the OP has envisioned, for instance. Chances are that any kid who falls outside of this role is subjected to the kind of name-calling I have seen on this thread – “cissy” or “mommy’s boy”. That is a surefire way to cause a massive hurt in the heart of a boy, who will believe that he can never be “manly” enough to please his parents.
Another comment inadvertantly answers my challenge:
Totally off topic, but this is why I think my egalitarian marriage is the best way to go! This kind of thinking would likely help do away with a lot of unnecessary gender stereotyping and type-casting. I think it would help to take care of social issues like feminism, MRM, decrease the pressure of the justice system, and make teaching in schools a whole lot easier!
She has turned everything upside down and inside out. The way to fix all problems that are reflected in the grievances of MRA’s and feminists, ease pressure on the justice system(?) and make school teaching easier is to ELIMINATE GENDER.
This is not a slippery slope. Its a straight down vertical plummet. I am gasping with incredulity at the dissonance.
God made men and women. He made them men and women. And it was good.
But not good enough.
He really meant to make a person, but He had to make two to sort of fill in what he omitted when He had just made one and to address the problems inherent to the one. It was not that Adam being alone was bad, it was that Adam was bad, incomplete. God therefore must not have meant that two become one, like parts and a whole, but rather that two become same. Interchangeable.
The pathway to hell may include pageant runways in more ways than originally thought.