(Previously titled Head Fake)
For this husband, one of those steps involved a daily time of prayer and study with his wife.
By the time I met this husband, it was nearly a year since he had initiated that regular activity with his wife. “Since the getaway,” he told me, “we have started each day with a devotional time together. We read a passage of Scripture and we pray together. That one simple step has had a profound impact on our marriage.”
This was a husband who took a courageous step to lead his family. And it paid off.
It therefore makes sense when, as quoted above, Lepine says:
For the sake of our wives,
I have no problem with that statement. Its how he then goes on to explain what to do that is problematic. All along I’ve maintained the “lead where she wants you to go” aspect of this. I’ve been slow on the uptake about the playing field itself. All language that is even remotely assertive is regarding leading prayer and devotionals, attending church and so forth. These ministry leaders are creating followers for THE MINISTRIES. They are building in expectations that, because they (the leaders) created them, they are the ones best qualified to keep explaining them.
In any other area of life, men are still ogres, unfit to lead because we continually overstep our mandate. Men can also lead and discipline children. But towards our wives, be prepared to follow the leading of the Holy Spirit as He manifests in your wife’s heart. Once you have cleared it with your wives, feel free to “lead” all the Bible studies and devotionals you can manage. And then some. Be prepared to follow the leading of the Holy Spirit as He manifests in your wife’s heart. Then she will feel loved.
He says it is easy to see why women have reinterpreted scripture. Yes, it is. They read things like this.