A quick post before vacation. For the coming week I will be in THE GREAT state of Texas attending a family reunion. Sometimes that gives me more chances to read and write, sometimes not. No matter.
The site Woman’s Divorce is written to help women manage their way through the decision to file, the process of, and the repercussions from divorce. I am not going to paste anything here except a couple of links because they are SERIOUS over there about their content. They have sufficient language to discourage my normal parsing. But I can link.
Two articles in particular got my attention:
Comments on these two specific articles:
- Is there any other action that a Christian can take that we consider its forgiveness in advance of taking it? Sure, sin in general can be made less intimidating through the rationalization process that employs God’s grace. But here, on this one, its not something quietly and quickly done as one gives over to temptation, rather it is taught as doctrine. Its a way paving done by the church and her members. Its a throw down phrase in polite conversation. It is sickening. Further, what other action do some people say, at once, that it is nebulous in scripture SO lets cozy up as close to the edge of the cliff as we possibly can? And finally, what other wrongdoing has discussion muted expressly to not offend those who have done it?
- If you read the site extensively you will see something interesting about the first thing on the list of 10. The claim that the wife has done everything in her power to save the marriage is not explained on the list. But elsewhere it is. When the subject is “Should you reconcile?” one of the key tests is asking the question (paraphrased), “is there anything more your husband could do that you would see yourself happy with the marriage?” Now we see how her doing everything in her power looks in action. She tried so so hard to change her husband but nothing was sufficient. She says she doesn’t need to hear another bible verse, she just needs acceptance. She needed to hear the scriptures before filing the divorce, but some other woman was there whining that she didn’t need another scripture, and so forth. Therein is the churches failure over all. There IS acceptance, and no stigma. There are whole ministries designed to help women divorce their husbands but filed under “recovery”. DivorceCare is an enabling ministry, not a recovery ministry. I asked my pastor in Texas if he’d start a ministry that would help me have an affair, maybe offer rides to the hotel so my car wouldn’t be seen there. He knew I was being wry, but dutifully said of course not. Then why offer the same thing for divorce? Hair split. She tells her friends to encourage her kids to honor her on Mothers Day and her birthday. Is there an epidemic of kids dissing their moms after divorce? Or is she basically saying, do not give me what I deserve for frivorcing a perfectly good daddy. Finally, she insists that her experience can bless others in the church because of what she has
put herselfbeen through.
I got nuthin’ else. For an infinite sized cage of rationalization hamsters, please follow the links.