The data is clear. Are we just going to sweep violence against women under the rug? We’re
running out of room.
Women are running out of time in this country.
This sounds dire. And he knows it will attract the attention of us pedestrians:
I have just given the ultimate fuel to the men’s rights groups that love to troll my posts and attack me. (I look forward to receiving the usual emails accusing me of being a self-hating man, blah, blah, blah.)
I don’t know about being a self-hating man. I do know why he writes what he does. He is still chasing the lift. Adolescent boys will say anything to adolescent girls to get the lift. They will try to convince the girls that they are “not like other guys”….so that she will raise up (the lift) and allow her trousers to be removed, and he can get what he has convinced her is was not after. Its a facade anyway because they both wanted the same thing from the start. She just needed some hamster food and he knew the preferred flavor.
The lift takes on other forms as the man ages, yet remains stuck in that phase of adolescent wonderment for women, keeping them on pedestals. The lift may still involve trousers, but less so. The lift he now seeks is emotional, like inclusion in the right groups, the affirmation of others, and most especially the openly expressed agreement by women that he REALLY is not like other guys….that he is harmless and safe… which is the utmost compliment. The approval he receives fro women via comments and email I will call the cyber lift, and it feels very good. In the company of men and women stuck in this group think, the experience is a second cousin to the empathogasm….”yes, I feel the same about this issue and have you considered that……?” Make no mistake, beneath all the machinations, when the dust settles, it is still sex drive motivated and primal. Insidious is as insidious does. No, he is not a self-hating man, he is a man like the rest but a damned sneaky one.
Rational discourse is blocked. The experiential is de rigueur. Yashar makes both qualitative and quantitative assertions. The qualitative first…in typical liberal/feminist fashion he throws out unqualified assertions like
red meat….er, arugula to the salivating masses.
It’s about calling attention to the fact that our culture is shamefully behind in addressing violence against women. [ ]
We have marginalized the issue of domestic violence and sexual assault.
How so? He tells us…
12 percent of women in the United States have suffered rape or attempted rape by someone they were dating
One in four women will face domestic violence in her lifetime.
One-fifth to one-fourth of college-age women have survived rape or attempted rape. One out of four college-age men has admitted to sexual coercion in some form.
Every year, 4.8 million intimate partner-related physical assaults and rapes take place.
I left the link active in his last assertion because at the very least it mitigates his hyperbole and his inferences (which come by way of the corpus of his work). Look at what the linked paper has to say
Of the estimated 4.8 million intimate partner rapes and physical assaults perpetrated against women annually, approximately 2 million will result in an injury to the victim, and 552,192 will result in some type of medical treatment to the victim. Of the estimated 2.9 million intimate partner physical assaults perpetrated against men annually, 581,391 will result in an injury to the victim, and 124,999 will result in some type of medical treatment to the victim.
and it goes on to add
Approximately one-fifth of all rapes, one-quarter of all physical assaults, and one-half of all stalkings perpetrated against female respondents by intimates were reported to the police. Even fewer rapes, physical assaults, and stalkings perpetrated against male respondents by intimates were reported [emphasis mine]
How can Yashar make assertions like this one
We are living
in a country and a world that continually reminds women that their safety is an inconvenience or
at a minimum treats it as a non-issue.
and then credibly claim to not be a guy interested in gender conflict? Easy. The lift. Sex drive motivates men in all sorts of ways. My saying that IS acknowledgement that men have such compelling sex drives that we must be vigilant. Being vigilant is more than simply not giving over to base urges that manifest in rape and abuse, but also not being to clever by half in attempts to manipulate people.
He gets more quantitative, attempting to juxtapose some unrelated statistics against those he has shared regarding violence against women to prove how apathetic we are about DV.
-Most stores have been short of Tylenol since 2009 because millions of bottles were pulled(and remain) off store shelves for reasons of quality control.
-In 2009 and 2010, Toyota recalled over five million of its vehicles after they were discovered to have faulty accelerator issues that led to the deaths of 37 people
His offers us his statistical pedigree…
I’m reminded, too, of a quotation that my father (a professor of statistics) has on his office wall, one from the legendary statistician W. Edwards Deming: “In God I trust; all others must bring data.”
And then he makes his point.
Could you imagine if they [men] were recalled? Pulled off the street? “Sorry sir, you’ll have to come
with me; we’ve had reports that men have been raping, beating, and killing women, and we can’t
take the risk that you will, too.” Yes, it’s a ridiculous idea. But men are way more dangerous than
Yes I can imagine it. Read Stephen Baskerville’s Taken Into Custody for a lil’ bit of perspective. Or, check airline policy that forbids men from flying next to unaccompanied minors. Regular men, MOST men, are on edge about all these things because they do not know what allegation the Yashar-esque women of the world will concoct next. Its part of the MGTOW response, and in light of things, it is reasonable.
On the numbers…
We know the excellent work of RADAR in debunking DV statistics. They and others like them are routinely dismissed as being male advocacy groups. Check the links in Yashars article and see that there was 1.6 billion dollars of VAWA funding at stake when these studies were conducted. No one would have any self interest in that because, as Yashar points out
$1.6 billion is a pittance for something that will impact one-fourth of women in their lifetime.
Studies that show men are abused evoke emotions too. Just not the one’s that Yashar wants to experience. But, unlike anecdotes Yashar refers to when he says,
Every woman I know has a story of a friend being raped or assaulted [indeed every woman he knows]
the emotions evoked regarding men who are abused are derision, defensiveness (“yea but….”), and even humor. But thankfully more and more people and media are willing to report the symmetry of the issue:
-Men assaulted by their partners are often ignored by police, see their attacker go free and have far fewer refuges to flee to than women,
-The charity’s analysis of statistics on domestic violence shows the number of men attacked by wives or girlfriends is much higher than thought.
-Data from Home Office statistical bulletins and the British Crime Survey show that men made up about 40% of domestic violence victims each year between 2004-05 and 2008-09, the last year for which figures are available. In 2006-07 men made up 43.4% of all those who had suffered partner abuse in the previous year, which rose to 45.5% in 2007-08 but fell to 37.7% in 2008-09.
Yashar sees himself as a courageous combatant, a knight for women, and boldly calling out men for our tendencies to base urges. He and his feminist ilk are missing the real spear tip, the real action point in the whole drama. More and more issues are testing the claim feminists make that they seek balance and fairness for everyone. DV is one. They are flying in the face of their own stated convictions that feminism is about equality for everyone. Isn’t it true that “if just one can be saved” is a hallmark of liberal advocacy? Or does that statement have a caveat? Its only for one child, one woman, one minority, one acceptable ethnic enclave in a far off place, one member of a certain sexual orientation. Not. For. Men.
If he wants to proliferate an image of being on the edge of societal issues he is failing. He gets a handful of sycophants telling him he is the only guy saying the truth. Like so many younger liberals he yearns for the days he can only experience through uploaded photos and scanned new articles. The days of real rebellion, street marches and sit ins. There was risk in holding to convictions that were new. The advocates like him are sorted in time in roughly 4-5 years subsets. Coincidentally the time it takes to pass through a university in America. I see them everywhere, in all the brackets, they want to be the biggest Dylan fan or have the right old books on ideology, they want to dress like radicals and write like radicals and they want to be noticed for their courage and intelligence. Yashar is 30-40 years late, and he is missing the first wave of really new activism to come along in a long time. By choice….because…..no lift.
Does it all sound familiar? Its the same as the church, for 40 years, ranting at the men in the pews when the vast majority of those men are under the subjugation of their wives, trying to please them through pandering, not running rough shod over the wives. The more it fails the harder they try. The preachers are chasing the lift, at the expense of the male congregants. I cannot repeat enough, the lift, in all its forms, is the motive.
One woman commented on Yashar’s post :
As always, your posts rock my world!
He got the lift.