This is not drawn from a survey, or a set of questions to determine if men hate women similar to the very interesting one over at Wapiti. This is, rather, a genuine open ended question. Do men in the sphere generally hate women?
We see the ubiquitous assertions that this is the case in the troll droppings left by the drive by female participants in threads at Dalrock and elsewhere. Those are push button reactions and we needn’t take that seriously. But lately, my blog friend elspeth left a comment here suggesting she had some concerns that a certain piece was motivated by seeing a beneficial effect on a group that is hated. The implication was not accusatory, rather it was a very reasonable cautionary remark that we should not knee jerk any and every time something actually benefits women. I do not think I do that, and I cannot speak for anyone else, but I do think I get dangerously close to that in the initial thoughts I have about certain things.
This made me wonder about the potential dark aspects of the deserved blow back to especially tradcon feminism, or evangelical feminism and if that is a just reaction. I concluded that yes, I still believe it is, and if heat and light crackle off some articles and comments, if there seems to be nothing virtuous about women even mentioned topically specific, so be it. Case by case, topic by topic, we wring the wrong out of things. Are we animated by finding wrong? Of course, and that is for good reason.
Aside from the silly radical feminists like those Paul Elam goes after, the others, those in our sites, have afforded themselves camouflage by wrapping themselves in churchian or traditional beliefs. They have layers of willing useful idiot men swilling the Koolaide, made by the men of course because making a drink for a man is supplicating. So, to address these man and women hiding behind Biblical doctrine especially, it is imperative that the blunt truth of motive be exposed in all seemingly conciliatory female declarations towards men. After all, its been forty years of accepting faux conciliatory thinly veiled misandry as something that builds men up that has gotten us this far. This leaves men jaded. Lets actually hope that it leaves men jaded and suspicious.
Not reacting to the sympathy manipulations of women who at once claim responsible agency and act out with nothing of the sort is certainly not going to positively influence anyone. Asking hard questions and shining harsh light on faulty logic and emotional derivations is actually perfectly suited to the role men are supposed to be playing. And here is the hard part, even if it comes across as hateful.
In the end, I do not care if some men in the sphere are motivated by hatred, though I think it is minimal. Its a powerful motive for change and it doesn’t hurt a group targeted for advocacy to know that some on the other side find them loathsome, even with exceptions. Rarely would a man in this sphere say he hates all women. A man saying that is as emotionally compromised as the women he is against. But the man who looks hard and deep for the angles that drive traditional females to pitch patriarchal systems, and highlights then that it is just another form of self serving feminism, while he may piss off a major number of women, he is doing needed work that is in no way hateful.
The common thread, one of the biggest ones anyway, is that the men are advocating things that protect men, and happen to be the very best for women, children, and families. if I do not roll over in sympathy for the plight of yet another single mom appeal, it has nothing to do with hate and everything to do with treating that women with the same suspicion I’d treat a child who kept making the same mistakes over and again and then coming with croc tears asking for heartfelt support. That’s not hate.