Barbara Rainey shows how delusional Christian women are when pondering the wants and needs of their husbands. She gets it honest. Awhile back Dennis Rainey listed what he alleged was a man’s list of things he wanted to fix about his wife. I blogged on it here. Dennis took a wife’s complaints about a husband and listed them as if a man made it. Now, Barbara writes what amounts to Christian women’s porn in cliff note brevity, and calls it a list of things that a woman can do FOR her husband.
how can you edify (build or improve) your husband and thereby enhance his self-worth, the way the verse above instructs? By discovering–and doing–what pleases him. Here are a few ideas:
- Write him a letter and send it to his office, or put a love note in his lunch box or his briefcase.
- Prepare his favorite meal.
- Arrange an evening out for just the two of you.
- Wear his favorite dress with your hair done the way he likes it.
- Purchase something small and frivolous for him that he won’t buy himself.
- Give him a nicely framed picture of yourself, or of you and the children, for his office.
- Surprise him with a trip to do something he likes.
- Put the children to bed early and prepare a candlelight dinner.
- Do something that especially pleased him back when you were dating.
- Pray and read the Scriptures with him daily.
- Take walks together.
- Keep your junk out of the garage.
- Greet your husband warmly after work.
- Wear his favorite negligee, or buy a new nightgown to add sizzle to your evening attire.
Sometimes the smallest gesture can make the biggest difference. Pick out something you haven’t tried before. Don’t give complacency a foothold in your marriage relationship.
So, just yesterday I read a testimony of sorts where a Family Life reader had written in telling a story about averting an argument that may have ensued over forgoing an expensive meal. The women said she decided to let it go, to not allow her desire to eat steak, and her husbands budget based temperance, ruin their evening. She went on to pound her chest saying she was SOOOOOO able to forgive her husband that she “blessed him with her love later that night”
Its simple. I’m sick and tired of sex denying Christian women running around decrying the sexual proclivities of Christian men, then, when challenged, accusing the challenger of things like advocating for porn use.
The women saying that she is doing all these things on Barbara’s list is made to feel like she is super wife. Never mind that her husband simply wants some sex, and yes on occasion he’d like some hot sex. She is now set up with a “Christian” backdrop, from a big family ministry even, that allows her to pick and choose from these items on the list and ignore the sex/elephant in the room. Then, after a couple years he gets busted with porn and she gets AAAALLLLLL the empathy. Try and raise the sexual denial and you are a porn advocate.
And the circle
by and by, by and by.
These are the basics folks and the soul patch still pisses me off.