I was reading Vox this morning and came across the following:
“Not much” is the correct description of any male activity that ranges from “I spent the evening rearranging my collection of Intellivision cartridges in order of release” to “I spent the evening snorting coke and banging a pair of Victoria’s Secret models”. Remember, women are solipsistic. They don’t actually care what you do, except insofar as it relates to them.”
This is a good example of what I mean when I talk about the building blocks of game having some shining gems among them. Knowing that what is written there is true and applying it to one’s own though process is indeed valuable. If men think this through, what it means and what it could possibly mean in their own lives I assert that most will have an Ah Ha moment where they realize that precisely this dynamic has played out, and that they have been doing the wrong thing.
The only place “not much” will need to be augmented is when the topic is not “whatcha doin?”, but “whatcha thinkin’, feelin’?” That is a separate topic.
There is broad application of the concept represented in the quote. Let’s say the man in the article had anger problems, or an addiction. If he genuinely had one of those issues and he genuinely begins to address it, he likely will go overboard in an effort to show, not tell, attempting to prove empirically that he is making progress, that they want to make progress, and lookee here sweety how good I’m doing and how much better I am getting. This will fall on deaf ears at best, and perhaps even annoy his GF at worst. Its a puppy face after pooping on the rug.
The point here is that the applicability of concepts that, when aggregated, are overly defined as the system known as game, require risk taking. Cliche, if you love it set it free, so forth, like that. This IS valuable information for the Christian married man. But i contend it is not part of some ethereal thing that must be constantly defined.
if half the energy spent selling game was expended explaining little nuggets like this one the transformation that game gurus speak of for men, and Christian game adherents speak of for men in the church could more easily take hold. It should be painfully evident selling a game religion to Christians is of limited utility. Selling the game of risk, however, may yield individual and collective results.