Recently I discovered as I was looking up stuff on 2nd Wave Feminism this blogger called Maggie McNeill, (blog example here) http://maggiemcneill.wordpress.com/2012/01/11/hark-hark-the-dogs-do-bark/who is apparently a retired prostitute. Very intelligent and interesting lady. She writes with intelligence, has a good understanding of history and literature, and frankly is one of the few writers online who has really pointed out some of the flaws in modern feminism. Interestingly she coined the term “neofeminist”, which basically refers to the kind of feminism we have been talking about here. As a number of us have said, the idea of political and economic equal rights for women isn’t really our concern, but the largest groups and loudest voices among modern feminists don’t stand for equality at all. It’s interesting that she is actively trying to reclaim the idea of feminsm. As I’ve said before, not holding my breath because feminism still appears to be profitable, but she wrote something that really struck me that I wanted to quote here.
IMHO it’s mostly the women who don’t want to please their spouses anymore, largely because the feminists keep telling them that they don’t “have” to. Judging by my clients, most men have the opposite problem; they very much want to make women happy, but just don’t know how because they’re given incomplete and contradictory information.
If I didn’t think men would listen to my advice, I wouldn’t have wasted my time writing and posting this column; in my experience they WANT to know how to please women and are frustrated when women won’t tell them how to go about it. Most modern women, on the other hand, either don’t care how to please men or else only use it as a means to an end. And more’s the pity.
This is true. Some people writing here may feel uncomfortable about the source of this, but frankly I don’t care. What this woman is saying is absolutely true. When we think of the times we have tried to argue that sex is a two way street, we’ve been accused of exploiting women or hating women rather than trying to figure out how to encourage men and women to love one another in the context of marriage. Think of the outrage provoked when the rare brave pastor tells wives to make love to their husbands more often.
And while it may seem harsh,I find that it is rare that even the most man-loving non-feminist professing woman speaking from a Christian perspective speaks this frankly. I salute this woman for speaking the truth. Dalrock once wisely pointed out that seeking out a Christian woman is no guarantee of a good marriage, and he’s right.