For the first time in weeks I popped in to CF to see whats happening. I found a thread about controlling behavior and the discussion that followed. Amazing, the point of reference is that a woman gives over all control to a man and that results in an unhealthy situation. Madness.
One of the often cited psychologists on relationships, Gottman, has some observations the women who cite him always fail to reveal. He found that when controlling behavior was an issue, it was overwhelmingly more frequent from the female side, and interestingly the female didn’t even realize it. It was as if her in control is the balance point, and any deviation from that is HIM being controlling.
My anecdotal experience supports his studied observations 100%. Regardless the age or demographic, even regardless the thickness of the veneer of traditional marital ordering with wife submitting, the wives are micromanaging the men, and the marriage both covertly and overtly, and only those who have managed to admit that and take it head on have succeeded in suppressing it. No…I’m not saying EVERY woman.