Beauty is skin deep, but, how deep IS that?

An article about church and obesity set me thinking, and researching a bit.

Have you ever waded into the topic of appearance among churchian women? I have. And as a man you can expect to be scorned for even having any preference for the way a woman looks. You will be called shallow and accused of giving over to the fallen condition of your base desires. You will be reminded that we all change with age, asked how would we handle the disfiguring accident, and a plethora of other canned shaming arguments meant to offer license to women who know they could probably stand to LOSE SOME WEIGHT.

The article I read was about general obesity among the faithful, not gender specific. We’ve all had a chuckle about the bulletin bloopers where the humor is mainly rooted in misstatements about eating and obesity. Humor does have a way of shedding light on reality. Mrs. Empath and I were discussing this, and she is a valuable resource for all things churchian culture because she is a saved at 6 in the small Texas town Baptist church girl. My coming to faith in my early 30’s, and her subsequent 22 years with me as we Vulcan mind meld somewhere in the middle has helped both of us understand each other, and others in our respective spheres better than either of us could on our own.

I was particularly intrigued by this fact cited in this article:

Baptist women are at highest risk of obesity

I need to dig deeper into the study mentioned but earlier the person making that comment stated :

But he wondered whether the observed effect was only seen in women. And he also questioned the role of marriage, since the study focuses on the time period when many Americans get hitched.

So we talked about it. I recounted the time when her and I were attending a Baptist church, and one of our Sunday School fellow attendees had his father there, who when we discussed alcohol, became so agitated he turned red and said that at HIS Baptist church it had a list of forbidden behaviors right on the bulletin and drinkin’ was not tolerated. Wow.

That prohibition was famously driven by gangs of angry harpies buttresses the notion that some of these Baptist women may not take too kindly to no drinkin’ and dancin and such but oh honey past the pot roast and there is always room for pie!. Little Abner the farmer, who would disappear to a spelunkers envy amidst the tunnels and crevasses of Murtle’s mid section had better love that women, ALL of that women for who she is because it was the women inside he fell for wasn’t it?

I’m sorry, ladies…..its OK if you are put off by your husbands gut. Men, its fine you’d prefer your wife’s waist smaller than your shoulders. And as you both age, you can both do the best with what you have. That may mean skipping the pot luck.

We don’t want Abner getting lost cave exploring seeking the inner woman. I know we charted the oceans, but somewhere on the way to Murtle’s real woman you may come across a sign “here there be monsters”.






12 thoughts on “Beauty is skin deep, but, how deep IS that?

  1. Having spent many years in baptist churches, i have yet to recall any admonition against gluttony. Here is what i learned.

    If a man gets fat, he’s a slob.
    If a woman gets fat, she has thyroid or hormonal problems.
    If a husband gets fat, he’s a lazy s.o.b.
    If a wife gets fat, she’s eating because she’s emotionally deprived.
    If a father gets fat, he’s letting himself go.
    If a mother gets fat, she’s too busy to eat well.

    Again. Always the mans fault the woman stacks it on. Men are adminished to look on the inside and to embrace the fatties. Better hope their arms can reach that far.

    Double standard, indeed. They obviously have not heard of culpability. Or paleo.

  2. Some solid research on the condition of men and women both within Churchianity would be interesting. But what I’ve understood in some of the things I’ve read in the past that religion tends to be railed on for being “more sedentary” for reading Scripture. The problem there is a common persecution. But the problem, especially for Baptists, is a lot of the gatherings revolve around food, namely pot luck dinners. I know, depending on the place, that it’s quite easy to get free food at least 2-3 times a month, if not at every gathering in the form of coffee and doughnuts. Hence, if there is an issue, it’s with that.

    But gluttony knows no bounds. Men and women both got that problem within Churchianity.

  3. No, I was referring to my blog and possibly doing a post regarding some of the work he posted to that link. I was just trying to be courteous, since I knew of it and didn’t want to cause any hard feelings if I could help it.

  4. I don’t think the ladies are getting fat from pot-lucks, though. You can eat a rich meal once or twice a week without gaining weight if you cut down the rest of the time and get some exercise.

    Women feel no compunction about teasing men about their looks; guys are just supposed to take it with good humor. All the furies of hell, however, would be released on a man who made similar comments to a woman.

    E: “And as you both age, you can both do the best with what you have.”

    Yep. After giving birth to my husband’s quiver-full, I know I’m not going to look like I did when he married me, but that’s still no excuse to get fat. More running, less Ben and Jerry’s, has become my mantra over the years. đŸ™‚

  5. I agree, assigning blame to the pot lucks is a little bit too convenient.
    I assign it to a bunch of things, not the least of which is justification of getting fat and the church daring a man to mind it. Secondly, these women are so steeped in a FORM of morality that lets them sit in judgement over men, that they unleash their base drives often over food while gossiping, on the phone, in person, etc. And finally they over compensate by being helicopter moms. I saw it as a coach, the big bottomed 30 something women watching practive and talking non stop through mouthfuls of fast food, ABOUT fast food

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