A man asks an open forum, how should he address his wifes burgeoning weight with her. He is honest, saying it has killed his desire for her.
How do the evangelical Christian women respond?
He is a cad!
He is shallow!
The problem is his, not hers!
(and the ubiquitous non sequitur) we will all age and deteriorate, focusing on looks will therefore be a losing proposition.
These notions are disturbing, and I wonder as we have grown into a fat lethargic country if these rationalizations have been made more sophisticated. Must we placate the ego of the fat women by failing to address the issue? All of the responses are avoidance. The man is not asking that his wife by an HB10, nor is he expressing any concern whatsoever that she will age and not look the same over the years. He is saying she is fat, and it is distasteful to him to see her nude form.
It seems any and every issue in Christian marriage has a pat set of cliche responses that alleviate women from any and all accountability.