I get these Marriage Builder emails from Marriage Today, and have been suspicious of them in the past, that they were simply the same man bad woman good flotsam that , if you hear it on your car radio, turn it off, it will be playing in the car next to you. But I received a very good one today. I have been actually craving this kind of balanced approach to a whole host of issues, porn, abuse, divorce, communication, and more, while posting at my old forum. The tendency there was, if presented something like this, to see it as somehow blame shifting away from men.
This article clearly calls out men for porn use, something Ive repeatedly stated I have zero issue being called out about as a man. It goes on to add commentary on a propensity of women that is analogous to the sex drive of men, a sin doorway if you will, that tends to be more prevalent in women, while sexual sin tends to be more prevalent in men.
More of this, and less of the venom spewing hatred and blame shifting that defines the normal narrative would make great strides in bridging the church gender divide.
I could write pages accurately anticipating the predictable reactions to this, the accusations that this is blaming women for men using porn, the claims of absurdity by women saying “I read romance novels and don’t picture my husband as Fabio” (anecdotes) and the general urge to project female blame shifting onto men.
But I won’t.