God’s Word declares that he does not blame a Christian wife who commits adultery in marriage, but instead, actually holds the husband responsible! This is due to the fact that the men were putting other things in their lives ahead of their commitments to God and their wives. This is a type of harlotry or idolatry and God declares that a Christian wife who gets into an affair ONLY gets into that affair in response to her husband committing harlotry or adultery
How do you respond to that? Wait, before you do, it gets worse. You need to understand the depth of the depravity of the man and woman who share this bilge as if it is life giving water to marriage.
One thing that we have found over the years in our ministry is that when a wife commits adultery, the fault, amazingly, must be laid at the husband’s feet! This does sound shocking and completely ridiculous at first, but the truth is that when a Christian wife commits adultery, a look into the heart of the marriage will reveal that the husband literally shoved her into the arms of another man!
I’m not usually the low road taker, seriously, so as I make this exception let me get it out of the way up front. While I fail to see a prize in the picture, what I can see is a man who may have many reasons to wallow at his wife’s feet, even to the point of rewriting God’s Word to make it 110% gynocentric, and to place himself beneath her in all power, authority, respect, but more, for her very and every whim. Maybe she makes it worth his while, though I cannot imagine any women anywhere for whom this subordination would be worth.
Over at Christian Mens Defense Network he has taken up writing about Joel and Kathy Davisson. Personally I’m always gratified to see these two snake oil peddlers outed and sanitized by light. I’m so gratified I wanted a small piece of the action, as I’ve been writing about these shaman of the demonic usurpation of God’s order by subjugating even the very best of men to the irreconcilable blob of emotional turmoil that many women carry around. They fail to mention the “god” behind all of this by the name that at least some of the so called enlightened or more universalism churches refer to , uh, him…….the divine fem…..these churches go fully and completely into a sort of quasi lesbian deification, where J and K are in many ways far more insidious.
They are more insidious because they not only have this niche where up is down and off is on….like a wife committing adultery is a response to her husbands adultery with the TV remote. And I thought it was a stretch to call porn viewing equivalent to physical sexual infidelity. They also know the demographic from which they pull their prey.
Theirs is yet another iteration on the uber charismatic movement that has in some ways fallen back a bit from its peak. This is where people tremble and scream and fall out, slain in the spirit and maniacally yell out in supposed tongues that no one else understands or interprets. These people are already under an influence that rules the air in this world, they are hyper emotional and easily suggested, so why not get these men who have given over to emotion anyway, to give over to their wife’s emotion?
Literally, under the J and K regime, if mamma ain’t happy, no one will be happy, oh but much worse. No one will be happy, but to get happy they have to buy these silly books and read them and call Joel and let him yell at them, saying thank you sir may I have another. A woman can and will find many reasons to have bad days. Under this program, that’s reason to cast him out and threaten his custody of his kids, lest he read these books and subjugate himself to the tyrant wife.
If you study their program one thing that comes to mind is that if some man loused up so badly it looked beyond hope, and he agreed to do what they recommend, his wife may not mind having a slave to her emotional whims. I have wondered how long these men who do this really last. A few years later, I wonder of he explodes, or kills himself, or if she grows bored with this limp noodle dish and goes and gets her tingle with an alpha male hunka prime rib .
But if she does that, that means the man was at fault. He was just doing anything and everything she said she wanted.
Maybe if he buys and reads the books again.
I have always been in favor of looking at both partners whenever anything happens in marriage. The women at Christian Forums seem to think that sort of thing is blaming the victim, because in their hyper emotional state they fail to grasp that as individuals we answer straight to God. That aside, sure, if someone has an affair, to settle the issue and address everything is golden. THIS, the J and K way is blaming the victim. Its also belittling to women making women out as mindless automatons who respond only and have no original thoughts (yet somehow are the walking marriage manual)
What women would not buy this program? If there was such a thing as this for men it would indeed sell, men are not above buying into this kind of one sided nonsense, but there is no analogous program for men. The Davissons and so many churchy women make hay by saying that Gods very order that HE set down in Ephesians is the male version of the J and K program. That’s how they gin up discontent. In reality God never set up a for-men version of J and K, and the twisting of the scripture into extremes about abuse is a simple minded evangelical feminist tool of fear. J and K are the end game for evangelical feminists.
This ground has all been covered, but it cannot ever be covered enough until this barnacle is scrapped off the bottom of the church.